That thing called Kindness

Friday, March 28, 2008 |

They say .. "Kindness is your inner smile" , is it ?? That maybe subjective, however that may still apply to most..

"Beauty, unaccompanied by virtue, is as a flower without perfume."
-- French Proverb

Virtue is an "old-fashioned" term that means moral excellence or goodness. A virtuous person possesses certain character traits, or values, that society considers worthy of admiration. Honesty, compassion, courage and kindness are some of the values that make us good in the eyes of others.

Like a flower with an pleasant scent, people who exhibit virtue in their daily lives attract admirers. They are respected by their friends and family, valued by their employer and embraced by their community. They make the world a better place. People who are beautiful on the outside may be pleasing to look at, but people with inner beauty leave a sweet fragrance in the lives of everyone they meet.

Of all the different values a person can possess, kindness is a special quality that generates tremendous power. It uplifts heavy hearts, brightens dark situations, heals hurt feelings. Hatred and anger are no match for the power of kindness. And perhaps best of all, every act of kindness gives you a warm glow in your heart that nothing else can match. You are best to yourself when you are good to others.

Being kind doesn't require much effort. In fact, the smallest acts of kindness often mean the most. Letting someone go ahead of you in line, writing a note to a discouraged friend, offering to do a simple chore for a family member - kindness is a gift of great value that costs you very little.

Kindness is an excellent measure of your how big your heart is as a person.

Do all the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.

-- Ian MacLaren

Be Radiant : Smile =)

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What? Smile ? Yeah Just smile ..

Like a flower with a pleasant scent, your smile can draw people close enough to see inside you. That's Smile Power. A smile has the power to radiate the qualities that make you beautiful on the inside - kindness, friendship, honesty, respect, patience, and self-control.

What is the best way to walk into a crowded room by yourself? The answer is simple: take something very important with you - a smile.

Wearing a smile when you are among strangers is the best way to invite them to get to know you. A smile sends a message that you are friendly and easy to like. It tells people that you have a positive outlook and that you are smiling and attractive on the inside. Your face is the first thing people look at when they meet you for the first time, so why not let it advertise what a great person you are?

Give smiles away like flowers. Let your smile be an invitation for others to get to know the great person behind the smile. Then let people see that your smile doesn't stop at your mouth, or at your eyes, or at your lips rather, It goes all the way to your heart.

It is sometimes said, "Frown and you frown alone," "but smile and the whole world smiles with you." The whole world? That may be a stretch, but a smile can be incredibly powerful. Wearing a warm smile can draw people to you, put others at ease, and even cheer you up.

So If you meet a man who has no smile, give him yours ..

The Rose Within

Friday, March 21, 2008 |

This is just a short story i found somewhere, err i found it from spams .. I loved it therefor i made it a part of my precious blog. Lol.

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it.

He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom... it died.

So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. The God-like qualities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.

We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.

Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.

This is one of the characteristic of true (note: i added that bold one) love... to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life... all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.

The Best Expression of Love

Monday, March 3, 2008 |

The importance of things can be measured by how much time we are willing to invest in them. The more time you give to something, the more you reveal it's importance and value to you, if you want to know a person's priorities, just look at how they use their time.

Time if your most precious gift because you only have limit amount of it. You can make more money, but you cant make more time, when you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life, that is why the greatest gift you can give someone if your time.

It is not enough just to say relationship are important, we must prove it by investing in them. Words are worthless. Relationship takes time and effort and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E

The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves. Men in particular often don't understand this.. Many have said.." I don't understand my wife and kids. I provide everything they need, what more could they want?".. They want you! Your eyes, your ears, your attention, your presence, your focus - your time. Nothing can take place of that.

The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolates. it is focused attention. love concentrates so intently on another that your forget yourself at the moment. "I value you enough to give you my most precious asset - my time." Whenever you give your time, you are making a sacrifice, and sacrifice is the essence of love. Jesus modeled this.."Be full of Love for others, following the example of Christ who loved you and gave Himself to God as a sacrifice to take away your sins."

You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving. "For God so loved the world that he gave ....".Love means giving-up, yielding your preferences, comfort, security, goals, money, energy or time for the benefit of someone else.

The best use of Life is Love, The best expression of Love is Time, The Best Time to Love is Now.

Expectations..yada..yada..

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Complains.
Thats whats in my head right now..
Questions.
I want them answered, but can be..
I have to wait, further..
I always wait..
I'm so good at waiting or I guess that what they believe..
Because actually i'm not.. I hate it, but there are exceptions and sometimes you cant direct yourself to just ignore, i guess when you love, you wait..
Duhhhhhhh ...
Grrrr.. >_<

If you're important to someone follows great expectations.. Why is that? Maybe because you think that they won't hurt you or maybe because you believe that they just want the best things in life for you like what? Luck, Love, Joy? Maybe you are wrong. Because If you love someone you are giving them unimplied right to abuse you with expectations, the very least to neglect you. Thats one fact, when you love someone, you're giving them the right to hurt you.. thats just simply because of "Expectations". I guess when you believe you are important to somebody you have high hopes, an anticipation of the future upon which something excellent is expected to happen or atleast something good or atleast nothing.. Ive been waiting long.. Too many times. But because i love, im also getting worried, because im human im also getting tired, and because i expect, i am also getting frustrated. Well, They say that Patience is a virtue. Give me more if you have it, or else i will end up, not minding at all, When that happens, Can it be called my victory? Winning over expectations.. Loosing that love within me?..

Lovin' March

Sunday, March 2, 2008 |

LOL.. Lemme start it it with a laugh LOL, i've gone crazy.. huh..my blog is becoming more like an online diary. But does it matter? its my blog right? and people visit my blog to have a glimpse of whats happening to me, to know my thougts, to laugh on some of my crazy cracks, to listen to my music and for some to steal my pictures. haha. (that was the real joke) LOL..
Well, Its March already, finally..
I love March simply because it polishes every bad things that happened to me last month.. Talking about February, I dont know but i think this month hates me LOL.. because most (if not all )of the bad things, most depressive events happened to me in that month..To name a few..My previous relationship actually started and ended February. My first "friend" gave me so much heartaches that for some reason always falls in this month.It was love month and yet this is the only month that i actually dont feel too much loved, imagine your bf saying I love you to someone else on Valentines Day?. woot.. that's just one, and there's still a lot but i have no intention to reminisce them for heaven's sake..Feb is Gone..Hello March..
Okay, so as i said in my previous article, I was truly born early morning Feb 29, but my parents chose Feb 28, that being the closest in terms of time interval.Sometimes i was thinking, what change could have been if i was born March.. but then again, i know im too smart to realize that stupidity.. Nothing..
I can say that during this month i cater my cards down, organize my life, make decisions, fix whatever needs to be fixed and leave any that needs to be forgotten..This is how i view March. For me March is a turning point for all my mistakes in the past year, its a deciding period for all my failures. If you're sensible enough to read me as a person, you will realize that i view my birthday (Feb28) as the ending..And i view March as the beginning..
March 1, 1980. Thats my first completed day as a human. this is when i could say, i lived.. and not "i was given life", not "i was born", and definitely not "i become alive".
March..
I had so many plans that started in March, but recently i planned one thing in February, (something for March) that could have changed my life.. that being the case, made me excited so i opted to prolong, it was unexpected, as i actually plan it to be executed come March 1.. But i did, Feb 14.. U__U..Too bad, i was not emotionally intelligent enough to realize that i was not ready.. So it ended before even March. I regret that to the point that i want to turn back time even if February would extend, but then again, it cant be.. right? Whats done is done..Time passes by, and there are things that just need to happen.
March is here anyways..A new year for me starts now, a new life starts now .. If you've wished me a happy birthday before, that was to remember the day i was born, that was past tense..March is Today, Onwards is my Future..So cheers for me, bottoms up ... To life, to love, to luck.. to Mau!